If you have nothing nice to say, better say nothing at all

Some people are experts at running their mouths, and often times they have learned to wait for just the right moment to hurt another person's feelings. How many of you agree with the saying, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? I believe in it but sometimes I forget my belief.  From time to time I speak too hastily and forget to put a check on what I am about to say. That is a silly thing to do. It doesn't take long to figure out whether what you are about to say is a mean or too critical a remark.  If your check is accurate and you realize you should either not say anything, or find a better way to say it, then you can accomplish much more and feel more peaceful in your life. I think  not saying anything is a bit like letting go. By letting go of your irritation and avoiding hurting someone's feelings you are going to award yourself with an instant chance for more inner peace. 

Has anyone of you received hateful remarks or comments on your blog before? What do you do when that happens? For me, I usually will just delete it and not even bother to think about it after that. I simply refuse to let their comments affect me. So far, I have had only one really nasty comment after two years of blogging. I deleted it, in sort of the same way that one might toss out the contents of a dustbin in my macbook. It feels good to see the contents disappeared before your eyes. Immediately afterwards, I simply forgot about it.  

During a demo event at the baking competition the other day, I overheard one lady in the crowd of watchers that had gathered make a nasty remark about the chef. 

Unfortunately the product did not turn out well. I almost wanted to ask the lady why she had said that but then, I bit my tongue and stopped myself from doing that. There is nothing nice I wanted to say to her so I should shut up. LOL!

Honestly, the truth is that when we say something hateful or mean spirited we usually end up regretting it. Nowadays, I try hard to catch myself before it happens.

Now, did I sound like I was preaching too much? Okay time to stop preaching and start sharing. Lets stuff some cabbage.

Stuffed Cabbage

I adapted the recipe from Chef Laura Calder of French Food at Home2 but with modification. I used chopped meat loaf and pomodoro sauce for the fillings. It was a perfect use of leftovers. Click on the picture to go to the link to get the chef’s recipe in case you want to try making his filling.

It was rather challenging for me, and mine did not come out as visually appealing as the Chef’s. In fact it looks messy but it  was delicious. I think I should put in more fillings in between the leaves when I make it again. 

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