“You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic
people from your life. It doesn't matter whether someone is a relative,
romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you
don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small.
It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to
change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and
"continues" to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go”. ~ Daniell Koepke
What do you think about the above quote? I agree with it 100%. At my age, I already have too many other toxins in my
body and I don’t need another one in my head.
I am sure when we decide to end a relationship with someone, we naturally feel a little guilty. Did we do enough to understand that person? Is it me, not them? We are unsure if we are doing the right thing. I guess when you are constantly feeling unhappy around the person, it is a sign to you to remove this person from your life. If you have allowed enough time and find there is no change then it may be time to reduce your exposure. It is just like when you learn of a food that may introduce toxins into your body, you wouldn’t eat it. You would discard it immediately, right? Believe me, our souls need the same loving care and protection as our vital organs do. II'll give you a couple of examples in my life. The first was a woman that borrowed money, then never mentioned it again. In fact, she began to avoid me. When finally I brought it up, she acted resentful and angry as if I were being mean (and I had not been at all). In that case, I simply passively let her slip away, a direction I think she was going anyway. In my second example it was a friend that told me gossip story after story about other friends. So much so that I began to realize she was quite likely saying things about me. They were never flattering stories and always had an element of poor behavior on the part of the subject. In that case I found myself interupting her and trying to divert her attention to another topic. Eventuallly though I began to distant mysellf from her as she seemed to stay intent on indulging herself in the habit. Though unpleasant at the time, today I feel like I escaped from becoming toxic myself. It occurred to me that there is a difference between a little sin once in a while as opposed to becoming fully toxic. By a "little sin" I mean something like this. This is one of our favorite "sins".
I am sure when we decide to end a relationship with someone, we naturally feel a little guilty. Did we do enough to understand that person? Is it me, not them? We are unsure if we are doing the right thing. I guess when you are constantly feeling unhappy around the person, it is a sign to you to remove this person from your life. If you have allowed enough time and find there is no change then it may be time to reduce your exposure. It is just like when you learn of a food that may introduce toxins into your body, you wouldn’t eat it. You would discard it immediately, right? Believe me, our souls need the same loving care and protection as our vital organs do. II'll give you a couple of examples in my life. The first was a woman that borrowed money, then never mentioned it again. In fact, she began to avoid me. When finally I brought it up, she acted resentful and angry as if I were being mean (and I had not been at all). In that case, I simply passively let her slip away, a direction I think she was going anyway. In my second example it was a friend that told me gossip story after story about other friends. So much so that I began to realize she was quite likely saying things about me. They were never flattering stories and always had an element of poor behavior on the part of the subject. In that case I found myself interupting her and trying to divert her attention to another topic. Eventuallly though I began to distant mysellf from her as she seemed to stay intent on indulging herself in the habit. Though unpleasant at the time, today I feel like I escaped from becoming toxic myself. It occurred to me that there is a difference between a little sin once in a while as opposed to becoming fully toxic. By a "little sin" I mean something like this. This is one of our favorite "sins".
Well ... maybe sinful but not toxic, so please don’t
throw this away. Or me either. LOL!
Salted Caramel Cake
For the American Sponge cake recipe, please click on the
picture.
Note: just divide the batter evenly for three 6-inch cake
pan.
Salted
Caramel Frosting
Adapted from
: http://www.mykitchenaddiction.com
(Makes
enough to frost a three layer 6-inch cake)
Ingredients:
8 brandied cherries (Optional)
8 brandied cherries (Optional)
1 ½ cup
sugar
1 ½ tbs
water
90gms unsalted
butter
¾ cup cream
1 1/2 tsp
sea salt
¾ cup soften butter
4 ½ cups icing sugar
Method:
Combine sugar
and water in a saucepan. Heat over
medium-high heat, stirring till sugar melts. Stop stirring when the sugar
starts to boil. Let the sugar boil until it is amber colored not brown. Remove
the saucepan from the heat, and add the butter and cream. Add the sea salt, and
whisk vigorously until the caramel comes together. Cool to room temperature.
Transfer the caramel to a large mixing bowl. Add butter and beat on medium speed
until light and fluffy. Gradually
add the powdered sugar, beating on medium speed, until the icing reaches a
spreadable consistency.
Note: For those who do not want to divide the batter, you might have to adjust your baking time and cut the cake into three equal layers when it is completely cool. Here is a video to show you how to cut the layers:
