I don't need more toxic

“You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn't matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and "continues" to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go”. ~ Daniell Koepke

What do you think about the above quote? I agree with it 100%. At my age, I already have too many other toxins in my body and I don’t need another one in my head.

I am sure when we decide to end a relationship with someone, we naturally feel a little guilty. Did we do enough to understand that person? Is it me, not them? We are unsure if we are doing the right thing. I guess when you are constantly feeling unhappy around the person, it is a sign to you to remove this person from your life. If you have allowed enough time and find there is no change then it may be time to reduce your exposure. It is just like when you learn of a food that may introduce toxins into your body, you wouldn’t eat it. You would discard it immediately, right? Believe me, our souls need the same loving care and protection as our vital organs do. II'll give you a couple of examples in my life. The first was a woman that borrowed money, then never mentioned it again. In fact, she began to avoid me. When finally I brought it up, she acted resentful and angry as if I were being mean (and I had not been at all). In that case, I simply passively let her slip away, a direction I think she was going anyway. In my second example it was a friend that told me gossip story after story about other friends. So much so that I began to realize she was quite likely saying things about me. They were never flattering stories and always had an element of poor behavior on the part of the subject. In that case I found myself interupting her and trying to divert her attention to another topic. Eventuallly though I began to distant mysellf from her as she seemed to stay intent on indulging herself in the habit. Though unpleasant at the time, today I feel like I escaped from becoming toxic myself. It occurred to me that there is a difference between a little sin once in a while as opposed to becoming fully toxic. By a "little sin" I mean something like this. This is one of our favorite "sins".

Well ... maybe sinful but not toxic, so please don’t throw this away. Or me either. LOL!

Salted Caramel Cake

For the American Sponge cake recipe, please click on the picture. 

Note: just divide the batter evenly for three 6-inch cake pan.

Salted Caramel Frosting

Adapted from : http://www.mykitchenaddiction.com

(Makes enough to frost a three layer 6-inch cake)

Ingredients:
8 brandied cherries (Optional)

1 ½ cup sugar

1 ½ tbs water

90gms unsalted butter

¾  cup cream

1 1/2 tsp sea salt

¾  cup soften butter

4 ½  cups icing sugar

Method:

Combine sugar and water in a saucepan.  Heat over medium-high heat, stirring till sugar melts. Stop stirring when the sugar starts to boil. Let the sugar boil until it is amber colored not brown. Remove the saucepan from the heat, and add the butter and cream. Add the sea salt, and whisk vigorously until the caramel comes together.  Cool to room temperature.

Transfer the caramel to a large mixing bowl.  Add butter and beat on medium speed until light and fluffy.  Gradually add the powdered sugar, beating on medium speed, until the icing reaches a spreadable consistency.

Note: For those who do not want to divide the batter, you might have to adjust your baking time and cut the cake into three equal layers when it is completely cool. Here is a video to show you how to cut the layers:

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